I found it amusing that people, especially Asians quite often don't ask for what they want. And they are wondering why people are not so supportive.
I receive countless of things as the result of simply asking. Last time when I needed some pocket money, I didn’t wait for the money to drop from the sky (although I really wish that will happen.). What I did was... I called a language centre, and I asked them whether they need someone to be their bahasa Indonesia tutor. They didn’t even advertise the position; I was the one who asked for it. Two weeks after that, I started teaching.
I bought a ticket for an event, but unfortunately, I couldn’t attend the event, so I must sell it to someone. I put it on ebay, but no one was interested. Instead of just giving up, I sent some sms-es to my friends who might be interested. As the result, I managed to sell the ticket to my friend. I never knew that he really wanted to go to the event until I asked about that. It was perfectly done by simply... yeah right, asking!
If you read life story of great salespersons, I am sure they will directly or indirectly tell you that their key to success is asking the right questions to the right people. If you noticed great politicians, you will realize that they aren’t afraid to look dumb or humiliated by asking questions. I have never remembered any doctor except this lady. She isn’t the smartest doctor; in fact she is still quite young. However, what impressed me the most is the fact that she asked lots of questions before she decided what medicine I should take.
What is holding you back? Are you the kind of person who never goes on a date because you are too shy to ask a girl out? Are you the kind of students who always have a bad time in library because people beside you make too much noise and you don’t dare to say “Sorry, could you please lower down your voice?” Are you a mediocre salesperson who is loved by your customers but seems to never produce outstanding sales figure just because you are too afraid to ask your customers to buy more from you? Are you a miserable wife who curses your husband everyday instead of just telling him “Honey, we need to talk. We need to save this marriage.”?
If you don’t lose too much by asking, by any means, ask for it. You will never know if your girlfriend of 8 years has been waiting for you to tell her “Please marry me.” You will never know if your boss has some budget to raise your salary. You will never know if your customers want to buy more, but they are simply confused what to buy. You will never know!!
Will you be always successful in getting something you ask? If that’s the case, I would ask Paris Hilton to marry me. NO, sometimes you get what you ask for, sometimes you don’t. Sometimes you get some of what you ask for. However, you stand a chance to get it, unlike when you never ask for it at all.
Yes, you will never know, until YOU ASK.
Tuesday, April 29, 2008
I found it amusing that people, especially Asians quite often don't ask for what they want. And they are wondering why people are not so supportive.
Saturday, April 26, 2008
I know, studying for 3 super-difficult modules which maybe will never be used anymore for the rest of my life is a bit stupid (coz there's only very little chance I will be working in Engineering field after graduation). ANYWAYS.. I will kill those modules!!!! Yeah!!! (pump my fist to the air while holding Red Bull... Red Bull, you're the best!)
This month has been amazing for my lovely blog. 23 posts in a month, and counting. The best part is... this month is probably, the busiest month in my life so far. Amazing huh? It proves one point... we, human need some kind of platform to release all our stress, our frustration, and our madness.. like this ARGHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Great, feeling happy now. Go back to my study.
Wednesday, April 23, 2008
Yes, this is the first time I teach in a classroom (before this, I gave private tuition). The class is not so big, there are only 9 students in the class... but still that is really a new experience for me, especially when the youngest person in the classroom is the teacher.
How much do I love teaching? It's at least as much as I love chocolate. In my college days, I used to have a whiteboard inside my room, and sometimes, I learned my modules by pretending to teach an imaginary student there :) Then quite often, some of my friends asked me to teach Maths or Physics in my room. I simply LOVE the feeling to be able to share my knowledge. I simply fell in LOVE with teaching at the first sight!
6 years after that, I got the chance to teach in a classroom, and am being paid well. What else could I probably ask?
Sunday, April 20, 2008
Starting from the ever-famous Meteor Garden (Taiwan), Full House (Korea), My Girl (Korea)... all the way to Romantic Princess (Taiwan) and now It Started With a Kiss (Taiwan).
Friday, April 18, 2008
I LOVE beautiful buildings, be it a house, a hotel, or a museum. I can enjoy a beautiful house for a really long time, from corner to corner. I feel sense of peace and amazement whenever I admire a wonderfully-made building.
It's difficult to talk about beautiful buildings without mentioning Burj Al Arab Hotel (Dubai), which was chosen as The Best Hotel in the world in World Travel Awards 2007. Before you show skepticism "How good can it be???", why not you just enjoy some pictures below.
Nothing luxurious comes cheap, indeed.
Thursday, April 17, 2008
Sukanto Tanoto is the richest Indonesian according to Forbes Magazine, with total net-worth of US$ 3.8 billion. His current business vehicle is Raja Garuda Mas International with its activities ranging from paper, palm oil, construction, and energy business sectors.
Mr. Tanoto realized that Indonesia was exporting logs to be converted to plywood in Japan and Taiwan, and then imported back at higher costs. Mr. Tanoto believed that he could process the logs locally. In 1973, he set up RGM to enter the plywood business.
Air Asia, Now Everyone Can Fly...
2. Always under promise and over deliver, not the other way around
He convinced the Minister for Industries to give him a special permit required to build a plywood factory. The factory was completed with 10 months - more than four months ahead of schedule. The minister was impressed, to the point of alerting Indonesia's then-President.
3. The importance of education
Sukanto Tanoto regretted his interrupted formal education. He was aware that English skills and global exposure would be important if he wanted to expand globally. This determination motivated him to learn English word-by-word, using a Chinese-English dictionary against 3 American magazines - Life, Readers' Digest and Newsweek.
With a voracious appetite for more education, he left for Jakarta for business studies in the mid-1970s, when his enterprise had stabilized. Mr. Tanoto went as far as pursuing management courses abroad, from prestigious schools which included INSEAD, Harvard, Wharton, and Carnegie Mellon.
4. Time management is critical to success, know how to utilize spare time
He is also known for maximizing his time in the plane when traveling on business trips reading up on history and economics.
5. Business is not about making money, it's way beyond that.
Mr. Tanoto's pulp & paper company, Asia Pacific Resources International Holdings Limited (APRIL), has a well-planned CSR program and operates based on a simple motto - people, planet and profits.
6. Finally, Don't forget to give back to society
Mr. Tanoto and his family have also formed the Tanoto Foundation in 2001, with the aim of helping reduce poverty and advancing human achievement. Working primarily in the areas of education, healthcare and disaster relief, the Foundation makes available scholarships to students, provides honorariums to teachers and upgrades their skills, builds schools and supplies equipment and books as well as providing healthcare in remote areas and rapid response assistance in earthquakes and other natural calamities.
Tuesday, April 15, 2008
- falling in love with DotA to the extreme
- having a triangle relationship with Henry and Ronald. However, after deep thinking and investigation, he decided to be with Henry for the rest of his life (poor Ronald…)
- being my only competitor in weight-loss programme
- love to laugh suddenly without any clear reason
Hang-out place: his room, for playing DotA. Nothing better.
Hobby: You mean beside DotA? He is a pretty good cook.
Makan Place: KFC! And of course, the foods he cooks himself
Foods which he mentioned to be "My Masterpiece"
Song: Some Mandarin songs which he has played for 100 times, one of which has lyrics “I love you…. Yes I do...”
Status: Domestic partnership (oops…)
Henry - Ronald - Shandy, can you sense something? =P
College: Canisius College, an all-boy school (Can you start to connect the dots?)
- Everytime I receive the holy communion, I feel very happy…………. (pause) … because I know the mass is ending very soon (after we come back from a Catholic mass)
- OH MY GOD. The food is excellent, I got talent (everytime he eats the food he cooks himself)
- always have lots of food in her room, from crackers to chocolate
- her “relationship” with Ronald Haryanto, which I shall explain in the later part
- always be together with Yulia everywhere they go
Hang-out place: Hong Kong, some cool malls and cafes (yes, same with Yulia, bcoz they are always together)
Hobby: lion-dancing, watch badminton and football matches via online streaming
Football team: Manchester United
Sport: basketball, swimming (she beat all the guys in her training center when she was a kid)
Status: single, available, eligible
Hometown: Mojokerto (which is famous for having so many “good” singers like Indonesian Idol’s Si Macan Dari Mojokerto)
Any sentence that negates everything Ronald Haryanto said. Period.
- “jayus”ness (an Indonesian word to call someone who like to tell lame jokes)
- powerful eating capacity, which sometimes can beat men.
- her MSN status which is always “busy”
Hang-out place: Hong Kong, some cool malls and cafes
Makan place: Waraku, or any buffet restaurant to satisfy her eating habit (scary eh?)
Music: Jay Chou forever
Status: single, available, eligible, high demand - low supply (??)
- I don’t care whether the movie is good or not. What I do care is… it’s Jay Chou’s. (after we watched Kungfu Dunk)
- (hundreds of lame jokes which are not searchable using Google)
Starting with this one,
7 years ago
- his organizational skill even to smallest details (he will make a TERRIFIC travel agent)
- taking so many subjects every single semester, and still do well.
Food: anything made of tofu, nasi lemak
Makan place: Boon Lay nasi lemak, Teck Sing at Johor Bahru, soya bean stall near Raffles, Japanese food sometimes
TV programme: sinetron (Indonesia's soap opera)
Birthday present: anything usable and functional (yes, all men like that!)
Hometown: Purwokerto (somewhere at Central Java, Indonesia, famous for its maids =P)
- I swear that I won’t eat at canteen 13 forever! (after the Chinese food stall charged him 20 cents more than usual)
- It’s a pity that I only managed to complete 199 AUs, 1 less to reach 200 (By the way, 199 is a few tens more than the requirements)
- My room IS NOT a printing station! (He complained after many people including myself print our stuffs using his printer)
Sunday, April 13, 2008
"I don’t know whether the newspaper is objective while judging the matter. Assuming it’s objective, I must say, Ronald Susilo is a good man. He is talented, ambitious, smart, rich, romantic, gentle, good-looking, sincere, and honest. Maybe his biggest flaw is... he dated the wrong girl."
which is taken from this post.
If you happen to be Ronald Susilo, you don't need to thank me for saying good things about you (which I believe to be true). However, I would be extremely glad if you could teach me how to improve my badminton skill.. haha... Don't worry, there is no way I could overtake you as Singapore #1 badminton player (I don't have the body, the stamina, nor the patience for that... or put it simply, no talent lah :D)
Ronald, I wish you good luck for the upcoming Beijing Olympics. May you win a medal for Singapore! :)
Saturday, April 12, 2008
I was elected as one of the most important people in one of, if I am not wrong, the biggest organizations in my school, which is one of the best schools in this country.
(What's so difficult with mentioning the name of your title, organization and school?)
2. Writing a lot of competencies which are not important
I can dance salsa, cook nasi lemak, spell the alphabets backward, brush my teeth with either hand, and play badminton with one eye closed.
3. Using informal language
I raised $29,999.99 (minus tax lah of coz...) for my school (pretty impressive huh?)
4. Too dramatic
And you know what! At the end of my speech, everybody was bursting in tears and told me "You save my life!" I was SOOOOOOOOO touched! MY GOSHH!!
5. Think too highly of ourselves
I believe you don't want to make a mistake by not hiring the best employee you will EVER get. I repeat, the BEST employee you will EVER get.
6. Too many words
In this fast-changing, highly globalized, and revolutionary world, you will definitely need somebody who is able to stand up fast and straight with courage and determination, and I, hereby, with proud and dignity, admit, I am that person.
(I don't know what I am talking about)
and the best of all....
7. Inappropriate Photo
NO, don't put a photo like this
Thursday, April 10, 2008
Meaning to say, I would be the first one out of my parents' children (a cool way to say siblings) who wear glasses.
*) Please forgive my limited computer skill
Still very handsome. I don't care! =P
They have the best coach in the world (as long as Mourinho is still unemployed), the best player in this planet (Yes, that Christiano Ronaldo, who else?), and they have very good momentum at the moment.
Barcelona is definitely a very strong team, but it is not as strong as 2 years ago. No doubt this match is gonna be very interesting. However, Man Utd is more consistent and I bet it will trash the spaniards comfortably.
As for Chelsea versus Liverpool (for the third time in the last 4 years.. boring!), I would bet on Chelsea. The reason? NO team... I repeat... NO TEAM would be willing to be trashed by the same team 3 times in a row. Although Frank Lampard mentioned that this match is not gonna be a revenge, I doubt he meant what he said. What's wrong with revenge? In sport, that is one of the best motivators a team could ever have.
So, Man Utd versus Chelsea in the final, and Man Utd is gonna win.
However, I think Chelsea won't end this season with nothing. They are going to grab EPL title instead. Although I wrote in this post that Chelsea is not going to win anything after Mourinho left, I think I made a mistake. No wonder people say that Israeli are the smartest people in the world. Avram Grant has done excellent work.My calculation? Arsenal will at least get 1 point when they travel to Old Trafford, and Man Utd will lose to Chelsea at Stamford Bridge. So, Chelsea is the EPL winner. Arsenal can try again next year, or next next, or next next next. :)
For Serie A, there is no doubt... Inter Milan will win. They are fantastic this year. Roma will be the runner-up and Juventus will be in the third position (not bad for a team which just come back from serie B). I think AC Milan will still qualify for Champions League next session despite their poor performance this season... although I would LOVE to see them playing at UEFA cup. HAHAHAHAHAHA. *evil laugh*
Gigi Buffon.. World Cup, Champions League trophy next.
Wednesday, April 09, 2008
Yes, from the average of 20 plus readers daily to about 70 per day, which makes my rating to be a cool 4 stars.
Two years plus blogging, I really hope I influence my readers in a positive way, no matter how few they are. That's not the most important purpose, that's the only one.
Tuesday, April 08, 2008
Monday, April 07, 2008
However, what kind of music I listen depends on my mood.
When I am happy, I would listen to medium-speed pop music, RnB, or Jazz.
When I am a bit melancholic, I would listen to blues, solitude, or slow instrumental. After I feel better, I would switch to Jazz (my favourite) or country.
When I am angry, rock and heavy metal are my choices. That can reduce my anger by a bit, and it's better than saying the F-word 100 times (and morally more correct also)
TIPS OF THE DAY:
How to feel like high-class people without having to go to Maldive?
Listen to Jazz music in the evening while enjoying a nice cup of tea (preferably brewed, not instant tea). Try it!
Sunday, April 06, 2008
I celebrated this year's birthday with some of my closest friends at TCC (The Coffee Connoisseur) at Bugis Junction. Having done research yesterday for some hours, I was convinced that TCC is one of the best cafes in Singapore. And I testify that it is right.
Yes, here we are, six of us (from left: myself, Ronald, Henry, Shandy, Yulia, and Inge). Four single, available, and eligible bachelors. Two single, available, and eligible bachelorettes. How cool is that? :D
I thought we were going to take photo together again after the foods were being served, but I guess we were too hungry to remember that!
- Bulgogi Beef Steak
The salad and the beef is very fresh and tasty.
- TCC Kahlua Salmon (my choice)
I must say, nothing special except that it's quite creamy and fresh.
Here I am, taking a pose with my birthday cake..
With so many friends (and definitely my family members) saying happy birthday, I feel that I am the luckiest guy alive.
- Graduate from NTU with good mark
- Finding a job I would be excited to go every morning
- Make more friends
- Find "that special someone"
PEOPLE, I am TWENTY-TWO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!